Three Can Play That Game
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IMDB rating: 4.00 Plot: Shante Smith has moved to Atlanta where she’s the Love Doctor, helping women get their men to the altar. Tiffany calls her after she catches her boyfriend, Byron, in a clinch with his boss, Carla, just after he wins a competition similar to “The Apprentice.” Shante initiates a five-step program for Tiffany while Byron seeks advice from his best friend, Gizzard. The five steps include her meeting his family and her offering and withholding sex; Byron and Gizzard respond with their own strategies. Then, Bryon consults Shante: has the Love Doctor switched sides? And, what happens if Byron finds out that Tiffany’s playing games? Can true love run without a play book? |
Actors: George Jason Winston,Rock Tony,Atwood John,Boyd Dwayne,Campbell Terrance L.,Dixon Marvin,Dospil Tarkan,Giles Lee Roy,Golightly Hajji,Holston Nard,Hyatt Anthony K.,Comedy,Romance,
I'm having problems with my dad?
I just want someone to just give me support pleasee, this is bothering me a lot. My dad has always been at work ever since i was two, and i barely ever saw him, so i never got to get close to him and instead i depended on my mom, and we became super close. So then about three years ago i found out my dad was cheating on my mom, although i wasn’t supposed to know that. I was furious. Because of him i’ve had to put up with the tensions between my mom and my dad, the fighting, the fake act they put on for me, the yelling they didn’t know i could hear for two years. Finally my parents go divorced and now i have to go to my dads every other weekend. I’m still angry at him for all the pain he caused me. But now since every other weekend it’s just me and my dad, he’s trying to be the father he never was and do stuff with me, but id rather go jump off a cliff. If id have i my way we’d never talk again. I don’t know why but i’m just so fed up with him i can’t be nice or anything so i’m just all cold to him. He’s self-absored, he yells at me if i don’t want to go down and watch a movie with him, or play a board game with him, or just simply because i don’t have enough enthusiasm when i’m talking. when he’s not yelling he treats me like i’m two still. Which just keeps building up the anger i already have. then my moms new boyfriend is self-absorbed and a suck up, he won’t even talk to me unless my mom is around. Whenever my mom has to go work and it’s just me and him, he leaves to go to "The store" for the whole time. He makes fun of me when he thinks i’m not listening, and always puts me down. I just wish i could have a fatherly figure in my life, and i always get so down when all my friends are talking about how loving their dads are….
You need someone close you can talk to about your problems.. Even an internet friend to let your frustrations out on. Someone who will listen. Have you tried talking to the school counselor? You have every right to be angry and upset. Have you tried to talk to your mom or dad about it? Have you told your mom how her new BF treats you? Have you tried recording on a phone or camcorder how he talks to you? Or how he "goes to the store the whole time". If you cant talk to your parents it is ok. Try to find someone to talk to so you do not have to keep this all bottled up inside. I feel for you and you can always email me just to have someone to vent too..
mom_single_sexy | Feb 03, 2010
as a dad of two, I can say that cheating is not always just the dad’s fault. the mom wasn’t there, didn’t pay attention, didn’t realize that the dad had needs, too. but your dad screwed up, and feels bad. divorce isn’t a bad thing, it’s just a thing that happens. don’t begrudge him for not being there, as he and your mom were miserable together, so he strayed and worked a lot.
you have one chance to make good. this is it. he wants it. don’t throw it away. i did, years ago, and regret it all the time.
Kyrcant | Feb 03, 2010
First of all, I don’t know how old you are so I hope this answer is helpful.
1 Your Dad. The next time you visit him, sit down with him and tell him how you feel…nicely. I would not necessarily bring up the fact that you knew he cheated (unless he knows you knew), but explain to him that all of those years he was "working" you never got to know him as a Dad and at this stage you feel really damaged by this. Explain to him how you feel about the family breaking up, and that all those years he was away you got very close to Mom and that cannot change over night. Tell him that you will try to be a daughter to him (and do try), but the feelings are hard and you will definitely try to be fair about it. Nicely tell him you are not two anymore and he missed a lot of your life and only time maybe will make up for it.
2 Your Mom. Drop a few hints to your Mom that this boyfriend is going to the store while she is at work. Try and find out how serious she is with this person, and drop some clues as to how he is acting while she is away.
3 The boyfriend. Ignore him. Do not be rude, but treat him the same as he is treating you. Eventually your Mom will see this interaction and if this situation between the two of them gets serious, she will have to ask you your thoughts on him. Then you can tell the truth, nicely.
The key here is to be nice. That way you do not come of as hating anyone or situation for any reason other than the way things have occurred and not that you would want them the same old way because the old way…from what you write…was just as bad.
Good Luck
mark r | Feb 03, 2010